How can parents help their child's future?

 If you explain, children will improve

How can parents help their child's future?

It is better to remain silent than to do this useless work, it is better not to speak. Children become worse than bad, so they will not utter a single letter. If they become bad, then it is our responsibility. What is there to understand?

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If you tell them not to do this, then they do the opposite. ‘I will do this, do what you say.’ On the contrary, they become very bad. Children get integrated into our respected country. These Indians did not even know how to live! They did not know how to be a child and they are sitting as children. That is why I have to explain like this, I have to publish books. Otherwise, those who have taken our knowledge can develop children very well. Make them sit down, put your hand on their head and ask, ‘Son, it was a mistake, don’t you feel this way!’

How does this Indian philosophy work? When one of the parents scolds, the other protects the child. For this, he should be corrected, then the correction should be on one side, the son understands from above that ‘the minister is good and the father is bad, when he grows up, I will beat him.’

If you want to correct your children, then follow my instructions. Children will tell you when they ask and also tell them that it is better not to ask me. If you have a negative opinion about your child, you will immediately counter it.

How can parents help their child's future?

The power to correct someone has ended in this era. So give up hope of correcting. Why not develop the unity of mind-speech-body, then go and correct them face to face. As is in the mind, so will it come out in the words and behavior, then go and correct them face to face. This is not the case in this era. Bring ‘normality’ (equality) of how to behave with everyone at home. If there is a direct change in behavior, thinking and speech, then it can be God himself and if there is a reverse change, then it can be a demon.

People go to correct the enemy and fracture everything. If you first correct yourself, then you can go and correct others. But how can you correct the enemy without correcting yourself?

We have to keep thinking for the children so that the child gets wisdom. Do this, one day it will not be without its influence. They will understand slowly, you are thinking. If you force them, then the opposite will happen. Therefore, it is like completing the world somehow.

If your son comes drunk and gives you trouble, then if you tell me that this son gives me a lot of trouble, then I will say that the mistake is yours, so without getting upset, bear it in silence and peace

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God is not Mahavir's law and the law of the world is different. Who in the world will say that 'son's mistake'. You will be found saying this and you will also accept (firmly) that 'son's mistake', I have understood correctly.' The big one has come to understand! God says, 'Your mistake.'

If you make friendship, then the children will improve.

How can parents help their child's future?

If you make friendship, then the children will improve. But if you remain like parents, go to maintain dignity, then there is a risk. You should remain like a friend. They should not go outside to find a friend, they should remain like that. If you are a friend, then you should play with him, you should do everything like a friend! When you come, we should say that we want to drink. We should all get together and drink. You should behave like he is your friend, then go and the children will be yours. Otherwise, you will not have children, in reality, no child is anyone's. If a person dies, when will his son die after him? Everyone comes home and drinks and eats. These are not sons and daughters, they only appear according to the law of nature (in the form of relatives), that's all. You should remain in the form of 'your friend' (your friend). You should first decide then you can remain in the form of a friend. As long as you do not say something that makes a friend feel bad, he keeps on doing the opposite, then we explain to him till what extent he is obeyed, until he does not obey anymore, then again we tell him that 'as you wish'. What should you first think in your mind to become a friend? In external behavior 'I am his father', but inwardly you should believe in such a way in your mind that I am his son. Then you can go and have friendship, otherwise it will not be possible. How can a father be a friend? When he reaches his label (level). How can he reach that label? He understands in his mind that ‘I am his son.’ If he says like that, then the work will be done. Some people are saying it and the work is also being done.

Questioner: You said that after the age of sixteen, like friends

If so, should we maintain friendship with him even before the age of sixteen?

Dadashri: That is very good. But we cannot maintain friendship until the age of ten or eleven. Until then, he may cause misunderstandings. Therefore, he should be explained. He has to be spanked once and a half, until the age of ten or eleven. If he is still a father, then he has to be spanked. Those who went to become fathers, they were beaten to death.

Every human being should make every effort to correct their children. But the effort should be successful. Now that he has become a father, can he give up fatherhood to correct the child? Is it a sin to give up ‘I am the father’?

Questioner: If he is being corrected, then should we make an effort to correct him, leaving behind ego, hatred, etc.?

Dadashri: You have to give up the idea of ​​being a father.

Questioner: We will not accept this as ‘this is my son’ and we will not accept this as ‘I am the father’?

Dadashri: Then there is nothing like that.

My nature is full of love, so there were two or four such people, they used to call me ‘Dada’ with love. And the others used to ask me ‘When did Dada come?’ like this. I would say ‘I came the other day.’ Then nothing else, a formal greeting! But they used to greet me ‘regularly’. I found out that if they would call me ‘Dada’, then I would accept them as ‘Dada’ in my mind. When they called me ‘Dada’, I would call them ‘Dada’ in my mind, that is, I used to do plus and minus, I did not allow any deviation. I used to call them Dada in my mind. Just as my mindIt started to feel very good, it started to feel light, and somehow, they started to feel more attracted to him.

I considered him 'Dada' in my mind, that's why my words were reaching his mind! Does he feel 'Oh! How much he feels about me!' This is something worth understanding carefully. I will tell you how and when such subtle things manifest. If you feel like doing this, then you will be blessed. So what did I do again? This kind of behavior always goes on, that's why they feel that no one else like Dada will be found.

Isn't it?

How can parents help their child's future?

Questioner: Why is the father so accommodating to the son?

Dadashri: It is because of his fatherly affection. There is no love. Fatherly affection means affection. Wherever the word ‘paaniya’ comes, there is fainting.

Questioner: Is this father saying in reverse that ‘I am your father, do you not obey me? Do you not respect me?’

Dadashri: ‘Don’t you know that I will be your father?’ I have heard a person say like this. What kind of fool (fool, idiot) has he been born? Does he have to say something like this? Does he have to say something that the whole world knows?

Questioner: Dada, I have heard that dialogue (news) earlier that who told you to give birth to us!

Dadashri: If you say like this, then what respect is left for us?

How can parents help their child's future?